A series of recent high-profile
child abduction cases has touched a nerve with parents across the nation. Too
many parents think such tragedies only happen to "other people." That's not
true, and there are steps you can take to protect your kids — without scaring
them.
Talk to your kids early and often. Teach them to self-protect. Don't be afraid
that you'll make them paranoid. Children actually feel empowered when they feel
understand that they have the power to protect themselves.
Don't ask children to deal with adult issues. Explain things in terms they can
understand, such as good and evil. Don't share the gory details with them.
Tell your kids to avoid strangers. Adults just don't ask kids for directions.
While it's important for children to respect adults and those in authority, give
them permission to act impolite, rude, or scream and yell when they feel that
something's not right. It's OK for them to make a scene or to yell for help, and
let them know they will not get in trouble if they were mistaken.
Teach kids to yell with specificity: "This is not my Daddy!" or "Somebody help
me!"
Role play with your children to practice how they should respond.
Don't dress them in clothing that has their name on it. When they hear someone
use their name, they often believe it's a signal for safety.
Teach your kids a code word that only you and they know to indicate that there
is possible danger.
The number one defense for kids is to run away. They need to run to a public
place with a lot of people.
Watch your kids! Keep a close eye on them. And don't assume that others to whom
you entrust your child are as vigilant as you are. To make sure they are, test
it out. Send a friend to pick up your child, for example, and see if the school
allows it.
Let your child know he/she can talk to you about anything and everything,
including body parts.
Remember: Pedophiles are sick individuals — but they look just like everyone
else. They embed themselves in everyday society. They are not extremists you can
spot walking down the street. Pay attention to people who spend an inordinate
amount of time with kids, and don't have any of their own. You may be suspicious
when you needn't be, but it's better to have "false positives" than to not raise
your eyebrows when you should.