The following is excerpted from
a 1950's high school home-economics textbook.
Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal
-- on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about
him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home
and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he
arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking.
He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little
more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
Clear away the clutter: Make one last trip through the main part of the house
just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc.
Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a
haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.
Prepare the children: take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces
(if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes.
They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimize all noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the
washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's
late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone
through that day. Make him comfortable. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft,
soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his
arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to
other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain
and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband
can renew himself in body and spirit.