We all know what anger is, and
we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion.
But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to
problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall
quality of your life.
And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and
powerful emotion.
Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to
intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist
who specializes in the study of anger.
Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes;
when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels
of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.
Causes of Anger:
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events.
anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems.
Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings
Dealing Anger:
The three main approaches are:
Expressing.
Suppressing.
Calming.
Outcomes of different types of angers:
Expressing----Gives regret and always negative outcome, and destroys relations
and trust is losted.
Suppressing---Gives harm to the angry person himself and health is losted as an
outcome.
Calming---Gives always good outcome and the person gets an ability to think
positively and resolve the issues effectively.
Why to chose to be calm?
Because:
It helps resolve matters in a very reasonable and effective way.
It prevents the breaking or ending of relationships with others.
It helps to improve one's health.
It helps to think clearly and handle carefully.
How to be calm?
By practicing:
By meditation.
By being quite, instead of being fureous.
By being busy for some other important matter, rather than focussing the one
giving anger.