I was crossing the university sports ground with fries in my hand when my eyes caught site of Sara. She was sitting alone on a bench. I approached towards her. We greeted each other and then I sat beside her. I felt as if she was feeling really down. I tried to make her feel a bit comfortable so that we could switch our conversation from studies towards actually what she was going through.
The result of send ups made her feel inferior from the class as she was not able to clear in two subjects. I offered her fries. She didn’t eat it. I felt her voice change as she was telling me about her grades. I was afraid she might start crying. She said to me that she was feeling as if she will not be able to continue her studies for this semester due to depression.
She was totally de-motivated at that moment. From her conversation, I concluded that when a child fails in exams, that child is already very depressed and should be treated in a good way but sadly some parents do not understand this and curse their child which makes the time even more difficult for them.
I tried to motivate her by making her remember her past semester’s grades and also her achievements in co-curricular activities. It is so much understood that the final semester has a very different pressure on the individual and plus the student is going through some emotional patches as well. I told her not to look down on herself. She in return asked me,
“How to keep oneself motivated?”
I guided her that she should try these few ways which I do when I feel de-motivated.
• First of all, remember your past achievements and buck up yourself to achieve more.
• Secondly, set small goals and achieve them on time. This really pushes oneself forward to do more. For example, in the case of studies, set a daily schedule to cover the syllabus and complete it in any case. This motivates one to study progressively.
• Then, keep your energy high and set a time table for everything. This will help one in time management and also in achieving small targets.
• Also, surround yourself with positive people, those who make you feel good and make you see the real you. And yes, of course, cut yourself from negative people or stay distant to them. And also remove all the negative distractions.
• Find a mentor, either from your close people or any famous person. And also read and watch motivational stories.
• Love yourself, Believe in yourself, Focus on how you look at things and Do not compare yourself to others.
As soon as I finished speaking, she hugged me tight. I could see that spark in her eyes. She was now feeling better about herself. I was happy to make her feel a bit motivated.
Then, we both got up and moved towards our department.