When there comes season of
weddings with all its glory and splendor.great pains are taken,months advance,to
plan events,themes,favours,outfits,dances,music and decorations to the last
detail – and all this needs a never ending supply of cash; the more the
better.it is said that there is no accountabilityof expenses incurred upon a
marriage.therefore no one has the right to question us when we throw bundles and
bundles of cash just to have the perfect marriage and show off our wealth.
The sheer delight people find in dressing up like kings and queens with the
guests acting like court attendants and jesters puzzles me.a weddind be it for
your son or daughter,should be a warm moment shared with family and friends;not
be treated like a product launch.with a closely knit community system and small
minded society loke ours,plagued with wannabes and a large gap between the have
and have nots,all this frivolity at marriages can have disastrous consequences.
In our community everyone constantly tries to out –do the others.my barrat was
very grandwhere I rode in an antique horse carriage.we thought we had outshined
the rest but this season one of my cousins arrived at his bride’s residence in a
helicopter.
Think of the bad influence this will have on the minds of youth.they feel they
need to do nothing.their parents will always be there to indulge them.they will
never learn to take responsibility or learn the value of money and how hard it
was for their parents to earn it.
Other parents,too,find it hard to keep up with the trends;many refuse to do
so.says a boy of 28,”when I hear of a crazy,out-of-this-world marriage event,I
think to myself that all my three kids are professionals;I spent all I had on
their education,now they will just have to work and fund their own marriages if
they want such frivolity.”
Unfortunately,going by the number of huge big-budget marriages in the
offing,each trying to surpass the last,not many parents think like that boy.It
is infuriating to see huge amounts of money wasted on frivolous events when
people are,literally,starving in the streets.But I don’t think this argument is
good enough to change the mindset of people,such as a couple said,”we come from
a high class family with good social standing ,each of our five children has
been formally introduced into our set so to attract a good match from an equally
rich family.A good social standing is everything to us.”
Opinions like this,at times like these,put one in a mind of foolish French queen
who declared,”let them eat cake” and we all know how she ended up.Lets hope
commen sense prevail before things get any worse.